Homework. A dirty word to some children; and parents.
Thankfully my 9 year old is more than happy to do hers. Relishes it even.
She’ll happily come home and work through a list of maths questions, then come trotting to find me and ask if I’ll set her some more “but make them harder”.
Plus she hates it if I help.
However this post isn’t about the rights and wrongs of schools setting homework at a young age.
This post is about the different ways mums and dads tackle it.
For there is a bit of a battle in this house. And we can no longer ignore the elephant in the room.
In the blue corner there is mum.
When Dan was in first school, ever week he would come home with a list of 12 words which he had to use in a sentence.
So I would sit with him and discuss each word, check he understood the meaning, let him come up with his own sentence, see if it could be expanded upon to make the sentence more interesting, then watch as he wrote it down.
The gist of it is, he is doing his own homework. I’m just handholding. I encouraged him to read over all the sentences when he was done to check for silly errors, but we were usually done within half an hour.
It’s slightly messy and won’t win any handwriting prizes, but it’s all his own work.
In the red corner there is hubby who tackles literacy homework like it’s a reflection on his own abilities. When hubby helped Dan with his homework it took at LEAST an hour and a half.
I would listen in be HORRIFIED by what I heard. He’d practically come up with the sentences for him. Using words and phrases an 8 year old would NEVER use.
And he’d make the poor sod rub out anything which wasn’t perfectly written and woe betide him if there is a ‘y’ with a wayward downward stroke.
Stop chuckling, this actually happened.
It was a work of perfection. But it wasn’t Dan. Or I don’t think it was anyway.
It’s always been a bit of a ‘thing’ in our house. I stand there rolling my eyes, husband stands there shaking his head.
So, should we be aiming for perfection and striving for our little ones to constantly push themselves that bit further even at a young age or should we just let them learn at their own pace?