The rule in our house is if you want your pocket money you do your handful of assigned jobs, keep your room tidy (ish) and be nice to your mum. For it is she who hands out the dosh.
We’ve always thought it’s important to ‘pay’ your way in the house. I do not want either of my children leaving home and not knowing how to empty the dishwasher, put the bins out, make their bed, clean their rugby boots, iron their own clothes, hang the washing out on the line. Basic stuff.
And pride in one’s surroundings can surely only lead to pride in other areas of life as they grow up and make their way through university/work/their own homes.
Actually it’s not really about earning your pocket money, more about being part of the family. All mucking in. Being part of the team. Pocket money is just the cherry on top.
At the moment Mia’s very favourite thing is doing the ironing. She thinks it’s very grown up. Sure it takes F O R E V E R, but the sense of achievement she gets and the lesson she is learning are priceless. Or at least worth 50p of her pocket money!
Her other love is anything in the kitchen. Making a bolognese sauce she’s mastered. She’s now moved onto baking. We just need to work on the clearing up afterwards.
And I love to think that all these things she will one day be passing on to her own children, and they on to theirs.
I find it a really interesting subject, the way different families tackle the subject. No one is right or wrong, you just do what suits you and your family.
And actually the one thing I have learned is that ‘chores’ is the wrong word to use if you want them to keep helping out long into their teens. Chores makes it sound, well, like a chore. And to teenagers chores are ‘oh my god, you’re making me WORK when I have actual school work to do’.
So I turned to the font of all knowledge that is Twitter and asked other parents how they tackle getting their children to help out around the house.
And after reading them I’ll definitely be taking a couple onboard. It’s all a learning process this parenting lark, right?
So, what’s your take on children and ‘chores’? Let me know in the comments below.
* NOTE: Many thanks to Betta Living for supplying us with a fab new iron to set Mia off on her marathon ironing sessions!