How many times have you heard that phrase or something similar?
Well I decided to live it over the Easter holidays and the more recent May Day bank holiday.
I gave the children my time. Lots and lots of it.
We went on walks, we sat around doing nothing, we chatted, we read, we put a tent in the back garden, we baked, we visited friends, we took the dog on long adventures – we even got bored together.
When they’re little it’s easy to give them your attention, because, well, you have to. Or they’ll walk into the road or put sticky fingers all over your expensive shoes or eat your stash of secret chocolate.
When they’re older they don’t need you as much. Your chocolate stash is safe because you can threaten them (kidding. Sort of).
But I gave them my undivided attention. Not my ‘answering an email on my phone in one hand while listening’ attention. Not my ‘cooking/ironing/removing gum from clothing while listening’ attention. Full on ‘let the house go to rack and ruin’ attention.
And I noticed things. Little things; quite subtile changes and shifts in their personality. Most of all I noticed that I really don’t do enough of this. I have two great kids. Really great kids. And they are at a really great age. They are fun to hang out with, fun to chit chat with, I can have interesting discussions with them.
We all have busy lives now – job, school, after school clubs, sports, friends, family, husband and me time. But what this break has taught me is I really do want to stop every now and again and take stock.
Consequently I don’t have many photos from our time off together. And those I do have were mainly snapped quickly on my phone.
But that’s OK because what I got out of that time with them is far better than any blog post I could write.
(No he’s not into intimidating the opposition. Well not with face paint anyway! Dan played in a rugby festival where the teams were asked to go in fancy dress. So they opted for the Incredibles theme as all went as Dash. The face paint mask looked a lot better to begin with. And yes, his three coaches all dressed as Mr Incredible for the day too. Made a lot of ladies very happy . . . .!)