I’m not a celeb baby watcher, I couldn’t care less if Suri is wearing heels or has been carrying a make up bag around since the age of 3.
And I care little if one of the Beckhams is making goo goo eyes at the girls.
But one celeb story recently actually managed to make my blood boil – the talk of Angelina Jolie turning her little girl into a boy.
I have a little girl who thinks she’s a boy.
She’s only 4 but knows exactly what she wants to wear and that’s usually jeans or a joggers or something from her brother’s wardrobe – in fact anything which makes her more like him.
At fancy dress parties she will dress as one thing and one thing only: Peter Pan.
And if you ask her what she wants to be when she grows up, for the longest time she would reply “a boy”.
But in the States, a magazine decided to have a team of experts analyse photos of young Shiloh because these days she looks, well, like a little boy they say.
Basically she’s had a haircut (in a cute page boy) and she’s wearing more boyish clothes. But, err, so what?
There has been talk of ‘gender issues’, bloggers have been buzzing about it and generally everyone is in a foo fah because a little girl acted entirely normally.
The magazine went on to infer that her mother is in fact trying to turn her daughter into a boy.
They talked to experts, stylists, parenting coaches who all said little Shiloh should be dressed like a girl and that she is a trendsetter and should act like one.
For the love of god, she’s 3.
One ‘expert’ hilariously said: “Shiloh is pushing the boundaries of a tomboy look and crossing over to cross-dresser territory.”
Another said the situation is close to tragic: “They need help, they need guidance of what that looks like. It’s important to teach our children that gender distinction is very healthy.”
Hello? She’s a little tomboy who wants to play in jeans, get her knees dirty and get a bit of dirt under her fingernails.
My girl likes nothing better than climbing, wrestling and getting so dirty I have to sit her in the bath most nights and take a scrubbing brush to her toe nails (how the hell do they get so dirty ALL THE TIME?)
And while yes, I’ve whined and moaned about how ungirlie she is and how she keeps cutting her own hair and tried weeing standing up when we were potty training her, truth be told I’m secretly chuffed to bits she’s this way. I want my girl to be a bit feisty and independent. I want her to discover her own identity, not have one foisted on her.
What are parents supposed to do, force their little girls to grow their hair and wear dresses because it makes people feel better?
Here’s an idea, how about parents let their little girls discover their own identity for themselves; be who they want to be, not who society says they should be.
I know what it’s like to have a girl with a very definite idea of what she wants to wear. If Mia doesn’t want to wear a skirt there is no way on God’s green earth I’m going to get one on her. On one occasion she got dressed, waited for me to go downstairs, took the skirt off, put her favourite joggers on then HID THE SKIRT so I couldn’t put it back on her when I discovered her deception.
This at the age of 3.
Trust me, none of those ‘experts’ can have children if they truly believe the crap that is coming out of their mouths.