Why I love being a mum (because, you know, sometimes it’s easy to forget)

It’s the bedtime routine Daniel and Mia are bathed and dried and ready to have their hair dried.
Tonight they want to ‘do’ mummy’s hair so they sit me in their ‘salon’ and brush and style and rebrush and detangle my long locks.
Little fingers all over my head, stroking, rubbing, tugging.

They’re giggling and lightheaded and I can ‘feel’ their newly washed scent all around me.
I think to myself ‘life just doesn’t get better than this’, then Daniel says “teach me how to do an Indian head massage mummy, because I want to do it for you.”
It turns out life CAN get better than this.


Since having children I have changed.
I am a LOT more tolerant of people.
It’s not like before I had children I flew off the handle or was a particularly roll my eyes and huff at everything and everyone kind of person.
But I became a lot more forgiving. I found the good in people where others didn’t care to look. I gave second, third, fourth chances and dug that little bit deeper to find the good in people.

I want to be the sort of person my children can look up to and be proud of and I want to be a great role model for them.
As a consequence, I actually started to like myself a whole lot more.


This weekend we were invited to a friend’s 50th birthday party which she held at her home.
My son is really quite shy and finds this sort of adult-oriented party a real effort.
When we arrive we are late and there are quite a few people already there, so several come up to us and greet us.
To every person who said hello, Daniel held his hand out, said ‘hello, I’m Daniel’ and gave them a warm smile.
His mum’s heart skipped a beat and pounded with pride.


Mia never stops. Her internal combustion engine keeps on running at full speed until she’s so tired that she literally stops and conks out.
There is no winding down with this girl.
There is no time for hugs or for sitting and chatting.

While on holiday, we are out one night at a restaurant. It’s not that late but we’ve had a really busy day jumping over waves, burying ourselves in the sand and chasing birds down the beach.
She’s taken a few bites out of her meal but then she looks up at me with these huge, expressive brown eyes, crawls onto my lap, puts her head on my chest and her arms wrap tightly around my waist.

She looks up at me, utterly beat, reaches her fingers to my cheek then curls up once more and falls asleep.
It’s only because I am in company that I fight a tear sliding down my face because right here right now I feel that emotional punch that is parenthood.

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10 Responses to Why I love being a mum (because, you know, sometimes it’s easy to forget)

  1. Insomniac Mummy says:

    It's always the small simple things that matter the most.

    Lovely post.


  2. Fabulous. You're so right to treasure these moments – and thank you for giving us all the nudge to remember for ourselves. 🙂

  3. TheMadHouse says:

    Thank you for that post, it brough tears to my eyes. Our children are such a speical gift. I look for the small things too and parenting can be like being bi-polar full of extreams. I love being a mum and it has made me a better person too. Thanks for the reminder

  4. MaternalTales says:

    Aah. That is truly lovely. Yes, you're right – sometimes we do need reminding and yes, I just love being a Mum too x

  5. Expat Mum says:

    Thank you for that. I've been in a right bad mood for the last 24 hours and I shall snap out of it immediately!

  6. MuddyNoSugar says:

    Lovely, lovely.

  7. English Mum says:

    Lovely. And I love the fact you feel like wanting to be a great Mum has made you a better person. I felt a bit like that this morning as I listened to my #1 son recount his entire dream to me (why is listening to other people's dreams so bloody boring?) and it occurred to me that I'd never have this much patience before they came along!

  8. Tara says:

    Thank you all for your kind words.
    It feels like all I've done lately is talk about the barking mad things my children say and willies.
    Thought it time I got a little serious x

  9. Lawyer Mom says:

    Very nice. And an excellent reminder to cynical mothers everywhere, mothers like me who live long enough to see that the older children get, the less charms they beget. Ah, the good old days.

  10. mimi says:

    This is a lovely post. You capture those moments so eloquently, and obviously relish them at the time.

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